Evening nerd herd!
Today I am struggling with an inner dilemma. I have said to a few of you that I would love the thought of moving back to Tennessee. I could be closer to friends and family which would be so great to have. But on the flip side I kinda feel that I am pushing Joe and Linda out the door before giving it second thought.
Now, don't get me wrong..I have asked over and over if this is something they wanted also. I have pried and picked their brains searching for reasons not to move.
So far I have gotten ok responses but when Joe says "She wants to be close to her family." It sounds like he's just doing it for me and not really putting in his 2 cents.
Pros of moving:
I would be closer to a large percentage of my family.
We both would have a good opportunity having equal (and higher pay - well it would be the same for me).
I would get to be around my family a few years before we had to move on for a job in the industry (my job - game concepts and model creation jobs - are generally located coastal regions. Not so much IN or TN).
Cons:
Linda has to have her foot operated on due to her having a deteriorating foot.
Linda would have to jump through hoops to get set up on social security again.
I would be putting them in a new place and I dont know how well they'd adapt.
Im just ready to be out of this state. I dont really care for Indiana. Tennessee is gorgeous. Im over this flat, land locked piece of rock.
At what point do I need to accept their answers as true - that this is what they want to do.
When do I stop feeling guilty from "taking them away" from comfort zone?
I guess it will all work itself out in time. And if it doesn't then we'll just find a new apartment here I suppose.
Thanks for the ear.
Lend me your thoughts, Id like to hear your side.
Multi-body problems are hard. Sometimes you have to do what you have to do, and it sounds that for you, now, that means moving to TN.
ReplyDeleteThat aside, my person said we moved south because of me for years before we talked it over and found out he was just saying that because he thought it was expected of him. He really did want to move as well, just wouldn't have done it without me pushing.